I can’t even begin to say how this makes me feel.  I won’t say this has anything to do with Gay Marriage except in that the breaking of a traditional role was a factor.  That point I think needs to be considered.  But I hope no one tries to blame traditional marriage as a part of the problem that made a 4 year old not want to call a lesbian daddy.

In reality the issue is parental substitution.  The child had a daddy, and he didn’t want to replace that person in the name.  I have a blended family, and we avoided any insistence that my kids call her mommy, or hers call me daddy.  My ex-wife apparently did insist on that, and my son wasn’t happy with it.   

Had she been the boys step-father, the end result would have been the same, and no one would be screaming about gays in the story. 

And make no mistake, the fact it was a lesbian couple and the issue was the child calling one of them Daddy, that’s what made this news.

This is about stupid and sick people.  Period.

What I will say is that apparently Gay marriages/relationships are not immune from the gross stupidity that plague hetero marriages and relationships.

I might also mention that I believe that the hottest places in hell are reserved for people like this…

Slain because he refused to call his mother’s lesbian lover `Daddy’ 

Four-year-old Jandre Botha disobeyed an order to call his mother’s lesbian lover "Daddy”.

So the lover, Engeline de Nysschen (33), viciously assaulted Jandre while demanding that he must call her "Daddy".

Jandre died from his injuries, which trauma expert Professor Mohammed Dada said were similar to those of a person who had fallen from a double-storey building.

Yesterday Vereeniging Regional Court magistrate Rita Willemse found De Nysschen and the mother, Hanelie Botha (31) - who did nothing to protect her child - guilty of murder.

Jandre’s father, Jan Botha, sat in court holding the hands of his fiancée, Yolanda Deysel, and listened attentively to Willemse, who, in her judgment, accepted evidence that among the reasons that led to Jandre’s brutal ordeal was his refusal to call De Nysschen "Daddy".

The court had heard evidence from Lydia Nkomo and her daughter Aletta Lesiba, who worked for the couple in their tuckshop, that De Nysschen had viciously assaulted Jandre while demanding that he must call her "Daddy".

Both testified that while Jandre was assaulted, his mother failed to intervene or protect him. Evidence showed he had sustained horrific injuries, including a fractured skull and brain damage, as well as broken legs, collarbone, hands and pelvis.

Delivering judgment, Willemse acknowledged there was no substantial evidence linking Hanelie Botha to the assaults, but said she was equally guilty of murder for failing in her legal duty to protect her child against abuse and violation.

The court found she had lied to Dr Elna Gibson, one of the medical doctors who treated Jandre, by saying the boy got his injuries after he had slipped in the bath.

The court ruled that she had lied to protect De Nysschen. The doctors who had examined Jandre dismissed the pair’s version that he had slipped in the bath. They said excessive force was required to inflict the kind of fatal injuries sustained by Jandre.

Convicting the two, Willemse dismissed their version and said there was substantial medical evidence before her about the nature of the injuries suffered by Jandre.

"I accept the evidence of the medical personnel who are experts in their fields. There were substantial documents placed before me. Most of them have medical experience which spans over a period of 15 years.

"All of them have dismissed the version of the accused and were unanimous that the deceased’s injuries were inflicted over a period of time.

"It is unthinkable that the mother of the child could not have known about these fatal injuries. The deceased also had broken legs, and his mother should have been aware of this."

The magistrate criticised Botha for failing to report Jandre’s abuse at the hands of her lover to the social workers monitoring Jandre’s progress, after she had gained custody of him during a lengthy court battle with her ex-husband. She also failed to report the abuse to her ex-husband.

The boy’s father became aware of Jandre’s abuse only on the day of his death, June 12 2003. De Nysschen contacted him and said Jandre had fallen earlier in the day and had died.

Willemse criticised Botha’s fitness to be a mother, saying her parents later approached her ex-husband and gave him financial help to fight for the custody of his child.

Rebuking Botha, Willemse said: "Hanelie was not helpless. She was well aware of Engeline’s violent outburst.

"She could have called the child’s father for help but she failed to do so. She did nothing to protect her own child."

The magistrate labelled Engeline a liar and a hopeless witness who had contradicted herself in testimony.

Botha and De Nysschen were further convicted of assault with intent to do grievous bodily harm and child neglect for failing to provide or seek treatment for Jandre’s limb fractures. The case was postponed until June 26 for a pre-sentencing report.

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